Walking around NYC, I often marvel at not only how many people I pass, but how many unique individuals exist in one city. The languages, dialects, accents, regionalism that differentiate me from pretty much anyone within arm reach of me at any given time makes smile on the inside and the outside.
I was raised in a city where different was normal.
Does that mean we didn’t/don’t have our bouts of violence sparked by xenophobia or racism? No. But it does mean I was conditioned to accept that differences were normal. While we may not always feel love toward someone who’s viewpoints are completely different from us – we can at least focus on accepting the differences.
So, for those of us struggling with that judgmental voice that screams in our heads and often ruin our interactions…maybe it’s time to condition ourselves/learn a new habit. Try this for a day – every time you have a judgmental thought about someone you consider “different” and therefore unacceptable – stop yourself, wipe your mind clean, and envision a rainbow, a sunset, a tranquil Caribbean blue ocean – then look at that person again. Keep doing this exercise until you can actually look at that person and simply observe and not judge. Even see if there is something about that person that you appreciate.
Then ask yourself which experience makes you feel most relaxed, most peaceful – judgement or simple observance and acceptance?
In today’s BN4Real visit – in “Delicious” we explore how judgements pull Helen and Elliot apart, while appreciation and acceptance bring them back together.
Special thanks to the cast and crew who made this episode possible.
Cast: Erika Kreutz, Ghylian Bell, Adam Thompson, Magaly Colimon, Charles E. Gerber, Hope Clark, Joan Baker, Maria Guzman, Calvin Christopher, Nicole Damaris, Jeff Sturdivant, Rudy Gaskin
Writer: Magaly Colimon-Christopher; Directors: Martin Majeske & Phynjuar; Assistant Director: Alex Gavin; Producers: Magaly Colimon-Christopher, Martin Majeske, Tobias Truvillion, Calvin Christopher, Phynjuar; Assoc. Producer: Sara Shives; Director of Photography: Ezra Peace; Editor: Andre Sutherland; Composer: George Fontenette; Post Production Sound: Andrea Belley; Casting Director: Randi Glass; Assistant Casting: Phynjuar; Script supervisor: Kim LaRue Lewis; Cameraman: Ethan Pisz; Sound Supervisor: Nathaniel C. Chambers; Boom Operator: Max Foreman-Mullin; Gaffer: Rick Micker; Grip: Randy Carty; Grip Assistant: Jeffrey D. Ringrose; Art Director: Gardy Boyer; Wardrobe: China Flowers; Wardrobe Interns: Kate Costin & Jeffrey Sturdivant; PA’s: Keisha Booker, Kate Bradburd